Heather Owens
In a child's education an important factor is the parents'
expertise for the "job". No one is born holding all the
knowledge, but we can learn and understand things from books or
take the advice of qualified persons.
Amongst the commandments a parent should strictly follow are the
following:
1. Do not underestimate your child - he can understand more than
you think he does and if you make him believe you think poorly
of him this might affect his development.
2. Don't use threats - a child loves a challenge and once
threatened he might go on and do what he wasn't suppose to just
to see if he can escape the punishment.
3. Do not bribe your child - if you are trying to get him to
learn for money, for example, he will fail to understand the
importance of learning, all he will get from this is the
importance of money.
4. Do not make a small child promise something - small children
can't hold promises so don't force them to lie and then punish
them because they did that.
5. Do not keep them under a short leash - to grow up normally
children need some space, some freedom.
6. Do not use big words or too many words when you are talking
to your child - keep your ideas simple and concise so he can
understand every thing you have to say.
7. Do not expect an immediate and blind obedience - it is not
recommended, the child has to learn to think for himself, not to
follow orders.
8. Do not indulge him too much - he can develop compartmental
disorders.
9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game - the
trick for a game to be educational is to have its initial rules
respected.
10. Don't impose rules that don't go with the age of your child.
11. Do not try to inflict guilt - guilt is not an appropriate
feeling for children, especially if they are little.
12. Don't give your child orders that you don't take seriously -
your child will try to please you and giving him an order is
drastic. It becomes cruel if that order is a joke.
All these "commandments" are addressed first to the parent. But
they need to be referred to by teachers and educators as well.
Along with the parents, they will settle upon an attitude and
strategy for the education and growth of the child, so that they
can give him all the things he needs to properly develop
emotionally and physically.
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